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Pre-Sale: Handbook on Thriving as an Adoptive Family

Thriving as an Adoptive Family I'm excited to announce the upcoming publication of Handbook on Thriving as an Adoptive Family: Real-Life Solutions to Common Challenges.

I wrote Chapter 4, "Developing a Support Network," for this multi-author compilation, which is being released in October by Focus on the Family and Tyndale House Publishers.

I'm taking a sneak peek at the manuscript, and it looks good (up until this point, I've only seen my own chapter, so seeing the whole shebang in context is really fun). Since the manuscript is still in the final editing stages, I can't give you much specific info about the content but I can tell you that it's written for adoptive parents and walks you through many of the joys and challenges you'll face, from the day you bring your child home and onwards. The book is written from a Christian world view, although the chapters I've read so far aren't at all "preachy."

Frankly (and I'm so unbiased!), I think this new book will be the perfect companion to The Adoption Decision, which helps adoptive parents work through questions you have before, during, and after adopting, and The Adoption Network, which suggests all kinds of ideas for building a support network in your community or church.

Amazon is pre-selling Handbook on Thriving as an Adoptive Family, so place your order now and get it when it's hot off the press. Order all three books and get free shipping--plus, you'll receive Decision and Network right away!

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Guest Column: Update Your Estate Plan When You Adopt

By Terence S. Nunan
Rutter Hobbs & Davidoff Incorporated

Adoption is a subject that receives insufficient attention in estate planning. When a person--whether a child or adult--is adopted, the adoptee may automatically become a beneficiary to a testator’s estate and, therefore, inherit a portion of the estate.

Unlike marriage, adoption is, for most part, irrevocable. For example, if a son of the testator adopts his new wife’s child from a prior marriage, the adopted child will become the testator’s grandchild and a potential heir even if the son later divorces that wife. In the context of estate planning, the key question is whether the adopted person is, and is intended to be, included in the testator’s estate plan.

Often, a person will establish a trust for the benefit of his or her children with eventual distribution to the testator’s grandchildren. A critical issue is whether adopted persons should be included in the class of grandchildren of the testator. In the absence of defining provisions in the will or trust, adopted persons may be included, even if adopted as adults. [See Ehrenclou v. Mac Donald, 117 Cal. App. 4th 364, 12 Cal. Rptr. 3d 411 (2004) in which Rutter Hobbs & Davidoff was trial counsel to one of the prevailing parties where there were multiple adult adoptions.]

The issue is, of course, the actual intention of the testator. Sometimes a person will adopt for non-paternal motives in order to benefit a friend who the testator would probably not consider as his or her grandchild. Carefully drafted documents may limit the class of intended beneficiaries to persons who are adopted below a specific age (such as age 14 or younger) or who have lived with the adopting parent as a minor.

One aspect of California adoptions that deserves special attention is the estate planning consequence of Family Code Section 8612(b). This provision of California law requires that adopting parent(s) promise in writing that they will treat their adopted child as their lawful child. It provides that the adopted child will “…have the same rights as a natural child born to me, including the right to inherit my estate.” This contract may constrain the ability of an adopting parent to later discriminate against the adopted child in favor of natural born children in their estate planning.

As the Ehrenclou decision demonstrates, adoption can create interesting estate planning issues for the adoptive parent(s) as well as their extended family, long after the adoption of the person has occurred. Careful drafting of estate planning documents can make it more certain that wealth will be inherited as the testator actually intended.

About the Author:
Terence S. Nunan, a partner at Rutter Hobbs & Davidoff in Los Angeles, is a specialist in probate, estate planning and trust law. A significant portion of Nunan’s time is spent representing fiduciaries, beneficiaries and creditors in contested probate, trust and conservatorship matters. He also represents executors and trustees in post-death administration proceedings including formal probate proceedings, spousal property petitions, trust proceedings and the preparation and audit of estate tax returns. Nunan has special expertise in estate tax and fiduciary income tax matters and has successfully represented clients in both trial and appellate courts. To contact the author, call (310) 789-1814 or email tnunan@rutterhobbs.com.

*Note: Publication of this article does not indicate that I endorse this company; I am merely providing information that may be of help to the wide range of people who visit the Exploring Adoption blog.

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Open Adoption Q & A - Part 3

801331_94975058 A reader asks:

Q: Adoptive parents often have relationships with birth relatives other than their child’s birth parents—such as birth grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins.

How can adoptive parents minimize the risk of hurting the feelings of their relatives in the adoptive extended family when referring to birth relatives using titles such as “Nana,” “Aunt,” or “Grandma”?

A: Relationships with extended family members can be tricky, even within nuclear families. Openness in adoption adds complexity to already-complex family interactions, namely because you are adding an entire set of new relatives into the fold—people with whom you likely had no connection prior to the adoption.

Birth Family Concerns
Members of the extended birth family are usually confused about what role they will play in the adopted child’s life.

They wonder:
  • Will I be welcomed by the adoptive family? If so, to what extent?
  • Will I have permission to write, e-mail, send gifts, call, or visit? If so, how often?
  • Is there is an appropriate “title” by which I’d like the child to refer to me?
  • Will I be able to live up to the expectations that accompany my title?  If I’m called ‘Grandma,’ will I truly be able to function as ‘Grandma’ to my grandchild who no longer lives within my nuclear family? What will that ‘look’ like?
Adoptive Family Concerns
Members of the extended adoptive family wonder how they’re supposed to treat members of the extended birth family:
  • Should  I welcome this stranger as a legitimate ‘grandma’?
  • Should I ignore the birth family’s existence and pretend that they exist in another universe, entirely separate from the one in which I live?
  • Am I willing to share my grandchild with members of the birth family?
  • Will we be competing to see who loves the child the most, and who can give the child the most stuff?
  • Now that the child is part of my family, do I claim sole ownership? Or because the child is biologically related to the birth family, do they claim ownership, as well?
These are difficult questions. I encourage birth and adoptive families who are planning an open adoption (or who are already in one) to do some soul-searching and to verbalize how you really feel about these relationships.  Expressing your concerns, fears, hurts, and questions is an important step conquering those fears and moving forward in an emotionally healthy manner.

Keep in mind that you’re entering uncharted territory—this is likely the first time either you or the other party has encountered a relationship challenge quite like this one, and it’s a good idea to show a lot of grace to the other party when the inevitable errors in judgment occur.

If you’re feeling really brave and comfortable with one another, consider scheduling a “family” meeting (with members of the extended birth and adoptive family in attendance) where you can discuss:
  • What titles does everyone prefer to use? (Grandma, Nana, Granny, etc).
  • What role will I play in the child’s life?
  • What is expected/not expected of me?
  • How can I best support and love the adopted child?
My experience
As we’ve forged relationships with our children’s extended birth family, there have definitely been awkward moments and mistakes made.  When my mother expressed some reservations about interacting with our kids’ birth family members, I essentially told her, “Get over it. This is the way it’s going to be, so you can either live with it or you can pretend they don’t exist. But the birth family is important to us, and they’re going to be part of our lives, whether or not you choose to welcome them.”

While I know she felt uncomfortable around our sons’ birth family members, she chose to accept the fact that this was the way our lives were going to look, and she eventually came around.

When my mom passed away five years ago, guess who attended her memorial service? Our son’s birth parents and two sets of birth grandparents!

Also in this series:
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Guest Column: Ethica: A Voice for Ethical Adoptions

By Linh Song, MSW
Executive Director of Ethica, Inc.

Ethica is an independent voice for ethical adoptions and we have mostly focused on assisting families in crisis; recovering from adoption fraud, immigration and delays from international policy changes, delivering humanitarian aid, and more. 

Our work reminds us that motherhood through adoption has its challenges and sometimes, heartbreak. Unfortunately, adoptions can be tainted by questionable practices and the victimization of vulnerable members of the adoption triad. When problems arise, families and their advocates approach Ethica for guidance and assistance. Their stories speak for themselves:

  • An American mother calls, seeking help to recover her child, whose "adoption" she never consented to.
  • An anthropologist calls seeking help for Vietnamese women who are searching for their children. They had been given as little as $31 USD as "poverty alleviation support" by Vietnamese officials who promised that their children will be returned to them in several years, and that until then the orphanage will provide for them. The children have been internationally adopted without their consent.
  • A family is stranded in Guatemala, abandoned by their adoption agency in the midst of new policy changes that essentially close adoptions while the country centralizes its process.
  • A young woman adopted from Eastern Europe, and then left in the U.S. foster care system, wonders if she is a citizen since she has no immigration paperwork and needs to apply for federal assistance.
  • Adopted children in an African orphanage tell their prospective adoptive parents about being sexually abused. As a result they are denied food, and the orphanage threatens to stop their adoptions.
  • An adoption agency uses a bait-and-switch tactic, offering children to prospective adoptive parents despite not having the appropriate paperwork or histories, then switching the "referral" in-country.
  • A Christian missionary group questions if their donations are being used to care for orphans as the poor conditions persist.
  • Families report giving "donations" of $5-7,000 to Vietnamese orphanage directors in order to complete their adoptions.  And yet two months ago, Ethica was asked to provide blankets and formula for babies dying from unusually cold weather in Vietnamese orphanages participating in international adoptions.
Ethica receives 50-80 inquiries a week from adoption triad members in crisis. Over the past 6 years, we have assisted over 8,000 children and families, often advocating for them with the U.S. Department of State, U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services, and state attorney generals. Currently we are actively assisting over 200 children and families in the U.S., Guatemala, Vietnam, Liberia, Haiti, and Nepal.

In the United States, in addition to answering many questions and supporting individuals through difficult situations, we have conducted a review of state adoption laws. We have testified in person and in writing on adopted people's rights to their birth records. We have worked on cases involving the informed consent of first parents.

For more information about Ethica, visit www.ethicanet.org

*Note: Publication of this article does not indicate that I endorse this organization; I am merely providing information that may be of help to the wide range of people who visit the Exploring Adoption blog.

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Steven Curtis Chapman's Daughter Dies

The daughter of five-time Grammy winner, Steven Curtis Chapman, died Wednesday, May 21, in a tragic accident. According to their Website, 5-year-old Maria (whom they adopted), was struck in the driveway of their home, rushed by LifeFlight to the hospital, but died of her injuries.

The Chapmans are strong advocates for adoptive parents, both by virtue of being adoptive parents themselves and by supporting others on their journey to parenthood through Shaohannah's Hope foundation.

My heart goes out to their family as they grieve the tragic loss of their beautiful daughter, and my prayers are with them.

Here is a sweet YouTube video that shows Steven and Maria joking around as they wash dishes together:

Adoption & Orphan Summit IV CDs Available

Summit IVIf you want to learn more about adoption and orphan care ministry, a complete set of DVDs and CDs from The Adoption & Orphan Summit IV is now available for $92.

This Summit IV, sponsored by the Christian Alliance for Orphans, was held in Fort Lauderdale. I was unable to attend, but did go last year, and the presentations were excellent. I imagine they were equally good this year.

If you want to purchase individual sessions (as opposed to the complete set), order by calling 954-315-4450.

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Adoption Counselors and Coaches - Call for Contributions

There is help available for adopted people, birth parents, and adoptive parents in the form of adoption counseling and coaching. In June, I'm going to focus on this topic in Adoption World eZine and on my Exploring Adoption blog.

If you have given or received counseling and/or coaching, either pre- or post-adoption, please consider sharing your story:

  1. Contribute a guest column or first person anecdote that relates your experiences (both positive and negative) with adoption counseling and/or coaching.
  2. Send me the contact information for adoption counselors/coaches in your area (I'll be publishing a list of resources).
  3. If you are a counselor or coach, send me a "blurb" about whom you typically work with and the types of services you provide.

Please e-mail me your contributions. Thanks!

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Spring Blog Tour Stops

My virtual book tour stopped at a several cool blogs lately:

Ashley Weis - Ashley is a business associate whom I've been getting to know "virtually," since she lives on the east coast and I live on the west coast. She's currently working on her first novel. She is very creative and asked me some fun, quirky questions during our interview.

Stretch Mark Mama - Lisa is another person I've been getting to know virtually. Lisa is the mother of three, including one adopted daughter from China (and another on the way, from Taiwan). I absolutely love her writing style! Lisa went all out, doing a big giveaway of my book, The Adoption Decision: 15 Things You Want to Know Before Adopting, running a 10-part interview with me, and posting a 6-part series about her own reflections of The Adoption Decision as she reads it.

You can sign up to win a copy of the book at this post: Adoption Decision Book Giveaway 

Lisa's reflections on The Adoption Decision:

Melanie Dobson - Melanie (who I've met in real life) is an adoptive mom. She's written several books, including an adoption-themed novel, Together for Good, which I interviewed Melanie about.

Mommy-Come-Lately - Beth Vogt writes about late-in-life mothering on her blog. She's also the author of Baby Changes Everything: Embracing and Preparing for Motherhood after 35.

I'd love to visit your blog, and to send you a free copy of my book(s) to give away to one of your readers. If you're interested in booking me for a virtual tour stop, please e-mail me.

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Questions to Ask When Planning an Open Adoption

In yesterday’s post, I advised families who are preparing for (or already involved in) open adoption to set firm boundaries around what is/isn’t acceptable behavior among birth and adoptive family members.

Today I’m going to toss out a bunch of boundary-setting questions. There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. They’re intended to get you thinking—and discussing—issues that will very likely arise in your open adoption.

While these questions are structured for adoptive parents, they are equally applicable for birth parents. If you’re a birth family member, just flip-flop the question. I highly recommend that birth and adoptive family members discuss these questions together—before the adoption takes place, if possible.

QUESTIONS FOR PARENTS TO ASK   

Before the Adoption
What’s my comfort level regarding openness?

  1. Do I want to meet prospective birth parents before the baby’s birth? If yes, how often?
  2. Do I want to attend doctor’s appointments?
  3. Be present for the baby’s birth?
  4. Be present in the hospital soon after the birth?
  5. Stay out of the picture until I gain custody of the baby?

Continuing Contact
Do I want to continue contact with my child’s birth family after the adoption takes place?

  1. What will that contact look like? (Letters, pictures, gift exchanges, visits?)
  2. Do I want to continue meeting with my child’s birth family members after the adoption?  If so, with which family members do I want to continue contact?
    1. Birth parent(s)
    2. Siblings
    3. Grandparents
    4. Aunts and uncles
    5. Cousins
  3. If I want to continue meeting with the birth family, how many times per year would I like to meet?
  4. Will our child be present at those meetings, or will the contact be among parents only?
  5. At what locations do I feel comfortable meeting (neutral location, such as a park? My home? Their home? At family gatherings? Holiday parties? Other social outing?)
  6. What do I envision happening during those meetings?
  7. What do I dread might happen during those meetings?
  8. What do I look forward to most about those meetings?

Exchanging Gifts
What are my expectations regarding exchanging gifts with birth family members?

  1. Will I accept gifts from them to my child?
  2. If so, from whom will I accept gifts?  (Birth parents only? Birth grandparents? Siblings?)
  3. Will gifts be sent only to my child, or do I expect to give/receive holiday gifts, as well?
  4. If I have additional children, do I expect birth family members to send gifts to them, too?
  5. Will I give gifts to members of my child’s birth family?  If yes, to whom? Birth parent(s) only? Birth grandparents? My child’s siblings?
  6. What is the limit on the number of gifts exchanged? (for example, 2 gifts for our child’s birthday from his birth parent(s), 1 gift from each birth grandparent)
  7. What is the spending limit on gift exchanges?
  8. For which holidays will we exchange gifts?

Discussing Parenting Strategies

  1. What do we prefer that our child call his/her birth parents?  By their first names? Nicknames? Birthmom? Mom? Hey you?
  2. What will our child call his birth grandparents? Grandma & Grandpa? A special nickname? First/last name?
  3. What role will the birth parent(s) play in our child’s upbringing? Do I view them as friendly supporters? As co-parents? As the enemy?
  4. Do I feel comfortable accepting parenting advice from the birth parents?
  5. Do I feel comfortable asking the birth parents for parenting advice?

Readers, please chime in with your own questions—and responses! What works and doesn’t work in your own open adoption?

Read more about open adoption in the May 2008 issue of Adoption World, my free monthly eZine. To subscribe, send a blank email to adoptionworld@aweber.com

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Open Adoption Q & A, Part 2

In the previous post, I answered some reader questions about open adoption. Here's another one:

Q: How can we maintain a relationship with our child’s birth family in a way that will be best for our child?

A: This is a tricky question, because every open adoption situation involves a unique set of relationships. And relationships can get messy, as we all know!

I have two recommendations:

#1: Take things slow, just as you would in any new relationship. 
One bizarre aspect of open adoption is that two families who would be unlikely to meet under “normal” circumstances are suddenly thrust together into a long-term relationship to which they are strongly committed. There’s a temptation to learn everything there is to know about each other, instantly. Keep in mind that a healthy open adoption lasts throughout your child’s lifetime; you don’t have to share all your deep, dark secrets the first time you meet.

#2: Set firm boundaries.
I’ve heard complaints from adoptive parents about birth moms who make frequent, unannounced visits and who criticize the adoptive parent’s parenting style.

I’ve heard complaints from birth parents about adoptive parents who promise to let them visit or send gifts, and then renig on their promise or hide/discard the gifts the birth parents send.

If you’re truly going to have an open, honest relationship, you need to prepare for potential hot-button issues and then face them head-on. Yeah, it’s uncomfortable, but it’s better to talk it out (with a mediator, if necessary) than to stew about it and allow it to ruin what could be a great friendship.

In my next post, I’ll suggest some boundary-setting exercises you can try.

Do you have an open adoption question for me?  Ask away!

Read more about open adoption in the May 2008 issue of Adoption World, my free monthly eZine. To subscribe, send a blank email to adoptionworld@aweber.com

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    • The Life of a Texas Mom
      Gwen is a Christian adoptive mom of three who regularly shares bits of her adoption story.
    • The Seventh Diamond
      Kimberley Girvin and her husband prepare for the arrival of their family's seventh member, a daughter from China.
    • Third Mom
      A thoughtful, well-written blog by Margie Perscheid, mom of two Korean teens, wife of 30+ years, and Korean adoption activist.
    • This Woman's Work
      Dawn Friedman, an associate editor at epregnancy magazine, writes this blog about writing, mothering, and writing about mothering. Includes reflections on adoption.
    • Ukraine Adoption Journal
      Steven Harper Pizik chronicles his family's journal to adopt two boys from Ukraine.
    • Waiting for Mercy
      By Michelle, a mom of four boys who is waiting to adopt a little girl from Guatemala.
    • Writer's Wanderings
      Freelance writer, Karen Robbins, is also an adoptive mom. Her blog contains "musings along life's journey."